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Forgetting Self, Finding Happiness

A while back I started an experiment of smiling brightly at perfect strangers while out and about doing my daily routine. Knowing that times are difficult, my intention was to bring a little joy into random people’s lives, while also causing them to wonder where my joy came from.

Admittedly, I don’t always practice this habit, for my personal problems and the cares of the world can get me down, making it hard to try to lift others up with a friendly smile. But I’m inspired to go at this practice with more vigor after seeing a chart from Gallup on the rise of unhappiness.

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As you can see, unhappiness began to rise around 2012, particularly gaining speed in the last several years. And in thinking about this rise and its possible causes, I began to see a way we could start that unhappiness index on a downward trend.

What happened between 2011 and 2012? One important thing was the release of the iPhone 4S. Sure, iPhones had been around for a few years, but the iPhone 4S was the iteration that greatly expanded the megapixels on the camera and made video much more possible. Combined with the forward-facing camera introduced the year before, the selfie culture was born.

Perhaps the fixation on self was palpable in society, for it was right around this same time that David McCullough Jr. gave his rather famous commencement speech, “You Are Not Special” at Wellesley High School in Massachusetts. McCullough encouraged students not to expect everyone in life to cater to them, but to work hard and live fulfilled lives, avoiding self-indulgence. The American founders worked hard to ensure that future generations could pursue life, liberty, and happiness, he said, so we shouldn’t squander such a gift by sitting and watching videos on YouTube.

Instead of self, McCullough urged students to seek wisdom. “Wisdom is the chief element of happiness,” he said, quoting Sophocles. So, if we are to reverse the rising swing of unhappiness, it seems the best way to do it is by infusing the culture with wisdom.

But where do we get that wisdom? A Proverb of Solomon, presented in one of his famous chapters on wisdom, suddenly echoed in my head, providing the answer: “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.” If wisdom is the main component of happiness, and wisdom is found by following and understanding God, then could the rapid rise in unhappiness be related to our rejection of God?

Such a thought led me to once again track down Pew Research’s chart of religious “nones,” or those Americans who don’t identify with any religion. In 2007 that number was around 16 percent but rose rapidly to 29 percent by 2021. Judging from the chart below, much of the increase has come since around the year … 2012.

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“Nonsense!” I can hear many exclaim. “Religion and following God has nothing to do with happiness!” Such protests have likely been around for years, a fact evidenced by author Alexis de Tocqueville’s mid-1800s work, Democracy in America. After discussing the great importance religion had in America he wrote:

Such are the opinions of the Americans, and if any hold that the religious spirit which I admire is the very thing most amiss in America, and that the only element wanting to the freedom and happiness of the human race is to believe in some blind cosmogony … I can only reply that those who hold this language have never been in America, and that they have never seen a religious or a free nation.

The free American nation, Tocqueville maintained, was free for the very reason of its religious or Christian nature. In fact, Tocqueville believed that Americans would say it was in their best interest to ensure that new states founded during America’s westward expansion must “be religious, in order to maintain our liberties.” And it is those same liberties that inform and aid our happiness, also, including the freedom of religion.

Many Americans are miserable and others will likely grow unhappy in the coming years. That’s tragic, especially since there’s something we can all do about it, namely, stop looking at ourselves and start looking toward God. Only through Him will we find the wisdom that leads to true happiness.

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    CSM
    September 15, 2022, 1:04 am

    Thank you so much. This is not about fighting over which church is “the” correct religion…its about making friends with a loving God, something Grater than ourselves. Something, which many call God, who gives us wise counsel and guidance if we pay attention and ask.
    The only requirement is to say “help, i don’t know whats wrong, it feels like everything is wrong and I’M miserable and afraid’.
    Then start watching how often you have a chance to do something loving or kind, within your own family or among your friends…getting out of SELF, and giving God the credit is a great beginning.
    Humility means giving credit where it belongs. We make the problems…God just allows us free will…and we make the messes. Our creator is very polite and won’t intrude, but he does show up to give wisdom and courage WHEN we are humble enough to stop, pause, and say “please help us, help me”.
    Amen

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    Renee
    September 15, 2022, 4:49 am

    Yes, Yes and YES! There is nothing truer! An answer so simply beautiful and needed….and yet so ignored and rejected. The answer IS God,,,turning our faces towards Him, His wisdom, his statutes ,,,not the mirror, mirror on the wall of vanity.
    Why is He rejected is the next question. To expound on your words, the answer is simple and becoming more and more evident every day….Seeking God is a journey of effort to improve, to become a selfless, giving human, to become aware of your purpose and find happiness and fulfillment in His grace and the miracle He has made – you.

    Sadly, mankind has become degenerate, lazy, greedy and perverted. Godless. His wisdom requires a conscience. Easy doesn’t. Sin is easy,,,,has zero conscience. But easy always comes with a price. …and it’s usually on sale.
    The "world" of folly and self indulgence, vanity and greed are handed out for free on every street corner, every billboard and Iphone screen. Foolishness, fast money, instant gratification, faster everything, one thrill after another…. it’s all shallow, fleeting …the well is constantly emptied.
    No purpose, no real happiness. Easy.

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    Carl Sensenig
    September 15, 2022, 10:39 am

    The article and two comments said it better than I could. I began doing that myself (random smiles) and found it interesting to see how many people responded in kind. My older daughter resented my encouragement to smile more, so I suggested that she should try to make other people happy.
    While self-improvement is good, our love should be primarily to God and others – not myself.

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    JB
    September 15, 2022, 2:39 pm

    The beginning of wisdom is fear of the Lord… Amen!

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