Over at The Daily Beast, Emily Shire writes about Date-Onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game, which seems to really resonate with her as a single, college-educated woman in Manhattan. As it quickly becomes apparent, she can’t find a good man.
But she takes some solace in the fact that there is actually a data-driven reason that she can’t find a good man:
“In his book, Birger eloquently explains, in terms that even the non-statistically-literate can comprehend, that the gender ratios of college graduating classes in the past few decades reveal that there really aren’t enough single guys. The ‘man deficit’ is real for the graduate set. The current college class breakdown of women to men is 57:43, which means that there will be about one-third more women than men with college degrees when graduation arrives.
If we assume these women will want to marry college-educated men—a desire that Birger convincingly argues should and will change—there’s simply not enough men to make all those trips down the aisle a reality.”
For certain cities, the ratio is actually quite enormous:
“Not for nothing are there 39 percent more women ages 22 to 29 with college degrees in Manhattan than men in the same bracket, with a gap of 100,000 between female and male college degree holders under the age of 35 in the entire city.
And while the land of Sex and the City is tough for single women seeking college-educated men, it’s hardly the worst. Fort Lauderdale has 71 percent more female college grads than male between ages 22-29, followed by Providence, which has 60 percent more.”
Obviously, with a gap like that it’s going to be hard for a female college graduate to find a male college graduate for a mate.
Sadly, neither the author of the article nor the author of the book seem to want to dig too deeply into why so many more women are college-educated compared to men. Only briefly do they dip their toes into what’s to blame and immediately dismiss one of the more domestically disruptive events of the 20th century:
“‘The sexual revolution and the hookup culture… are both rooted in a statistical over-supply of women,’ writes Birger. This conclusion that people should lay off of feminism as the culprit for hook-up culture is not the focus of Date-Onomics, but a rewarding one for anyone tired of hand-wringing about whether feminism ‘hurts’ women.”
The sexual revolution, which permeated all of American society, was driven by demographics? In 1960, there were 88 million males of all races (49.2% of the population) in America. For women of all races in America, there were 91 million (50.8% of the population). In 2010, there were 152 million men (49.1 % of the population) and 157 million women (50.9% of the population) in America. Not much has changed over the years when it comes to demographics. There was no “statistical oversupply” of women in the 1960s that ushered in the sexual revolution.
What ushered in the sexual revolution was truly a revolution in our society’s views of morality, family life, freedom, and the roles of men and women. Ideas drove the sexual revolution, not a sudden explosion in the population of women.
As for the solution proposed by Birger?
“‘More boys need to go to college. That’s the long-term solution,’ Birger says.
‘I am certainly not suggesting we do it at the expense of girls. I just think there’s a boy problem we need to address. There shouldn’t be 35 percent more women than men in college.’”
Okay, but why aren’t more boys going to college? What has happened to the young men out there?
Birger seems terribly unwilling to say anything that might rock the boat when it comes to our modern orthodoxies about men and women, equality, freedom, gender, and biology. But those are the things that have changed the most since the Sexual Revolution and, therefore, should be questioned.
For that, lets us turn to Christina Hoff Sommers who actually did see these problems coming decades ago. In the May 2000 issue of The Atlantic, she writes about “The War Against Boys”. As the intro states,
“This we think we know: American schools favor boys and grind down girls. The truth is the very opposite. By virtually every measure, girls are thriving in school; it is boys who are the second sex.”
She continues, challenging the idea that the problem of low levels of college-educated men suddenly popped up unforeseen:
“That boys are in disrepute is not accidental. For many years women’s groups have complained that boys benefit from a school system that favors them and is biased against girls. ‘Schools shortchange girls,’ declares the American Association of University Women. Girls are ‘undergoing a kind of psychological foot-binding,’ two prominent educational psychologists say. A stream of books and pamphlets cite research showing not only that boys are classroom favorites but also that they are given to schoolyard violence and sexual harassment.
In the view that has prevailed in American education over the past decade, boys are resented, both as the unfairly privileged sex and as obstacles on the path to gender justice for girls. This perspective is promoted in schools of education, and many a teacher now feels that girls need and deserve special indemnifying consideration.”
Hoff Sommers doesn’t stop there:
“Every society confronts the problem of civilizing its young males. The traditional approach is through character education: Develop the young man’s sense of honor. Help him become a considerate, conscientious human being. Turn him into a gentleman. This approach respects boys’ masculine nature; it is time-tested, and it works. Even today, despite several decades of moral confusion, most young men understand the term ‘gentleman’ and approve of the ideals it connotes.
What Gilligan and her followers are proposing is quite different: civilize boys by diminishing their masculinity. ‘Raise boys like we raise girls’ is Gloria Steinem’s advice. This approach is deeply disrespectful of boys. It is meddlesome, abusive, and quite beyond what educators in a free society are mandated to do.”
Unfortunately, the results are rather painful:
“Data from the U.S. Department of Education and from several recent university studies show that far from being shy and demoralized, today’s girls outshine boys. They get better grades. They have higher educational aspirations. They follow more-rigorous academic programs and participate in advanced-placement classes at higher rates. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, slightly more girls than boys enroll in high-level math and science courses. Girls, allegedly timorous and lacking in confidence, now outnumber boys in student government, in honor societies, on school newspapers, and in debating clubs. Only in sports are boys ahead, and women’s groups are targeting the sports gap with a vengeance. Girls read more books. They outperform boys on tests for artistic and musical ability. More girls than boys study abroad. More join the Peace Corps. At the same time, more boys than girls are suspended from school. More are held back and more drop out. Boys are three times as likely to receive a diagnosis of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder. More boys than girls are involved in crime, alcohol, and drugs. Girls attempt suicide more often than boys, but it is boys who more often succeed. In 1997, a typical year, 4,483 young people aged five to twenty-four committed suicide: 701 females and 3,782 males.”
And there you have the 1990s data showing why college-educated women in 2016 can’t find mates. The writing on the wall was there to be read long ago, only now are those ladies finding that it’s actually a problem.
But again, why? Is Christina Hoff Sommers right that in our gender and sexual experiments since the 1960s that we have attempted systemically to raise and educate boys as if they’re girls? Is that why they are not doing well in school, let alone going on to college? Do boys feel that they have no value as “boys” or, eventually as “men”? Have boys quit life as a result?
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John Holmes
November 3, 2022, 8:35 pmAll this is bullshit. I look and hear all the time that the "females can’t find a decent guy!" Well when you look at them today, they look like combative feminists. Nothing appealing about them what so ever! Obese, no-make-up-face, no perfume, bare legs, dresses(if they even wear them) down to their toenails, couldn’t walk in a heel to save their lives, multiple babies w/multiple babydaddies, oh, and the body modifications!!! tattoos, piercings, fat lips, butt implants, the list goes on and on! Now with the "attitude", "sarcasm" seems to be the rage with these miserable beings. Oh, boo-hoo, some guy doesn’t find all this crap attractive??? Oh throw in the EGO and NARCISSISM, phone/social media addiction, and other psychological disorders and you have one hell of a package. Trust me, I have had enough exposure to these bottom dwellers(don’t believe me? Western females are rated within the BOTTOM FIVE GLOBALLY!!) (BTW, "American men are rated within the TOP FIVE!!!) And because of their "entitlement" and the "you-go-girl" attitude, makes them even more enticing! Do any of you "statistic" people ever get out and actually look at what is happening out there? Or do you just copy and paste everyone else’s crap? Do you really want to solve the problem/issue???? Peaked your interest maybe? Ship these useless turds over to Saudi Arabia, Iran, basically the middle east. Trust me, they will "fix" them! Oh, also, there isn’t a male I know that gives a rat’s ass about what "certificates of achievements" these females procure! That is the you-go-girl bullshit! And as far as the "educated male" and the "requirements" of said "certificates of achievements", the "men" aren’t wasting their time and future money on useless "certificates of achievements" being debt laden to support the overinflated scholastic system. I know more females with bullshit degrees that work at Wawa or Walmart, and the ones that have "good jobs" don’t make shit! Guys turning $200K working for a utility company or in much demand, heavy equipment operators, marine mechanics, heavy duty mechanics, electrical testing, etc. AND ZERO DEBT! So they can take their "certificates of achievements", range rover, stupid hoity toity meals, $8 cup of coffee, and go off into the sunset. . . . . . . ALONE! (and in debt) I am 62 that is SIXTY TWO, AND GET PROPOSITIONED BY THEM!!!! More times than not, I give them their numbers back! Don’t need their horseshit! ( I won’t get into the "background check APPs")When I talk to them, and they are responsive, they may alter their behavior. I see this at different ‘establishments" I frequent. So the issue is not with the men(not all of it), it is with the females. Granted I laugh at these useless turd males sitting at a ‘sports bar", eating "hot wings", drinking beer, gawking at the screens, with their hats on backwards, then hop on their "harley" or pickup that is six feet in the air with the big EGO grill and drive off inebriated. Yeah, that is also quite impressive. Females CRAVE resources! (Briffault’s law) and men are real tired (I am whole heartedly one of them) of being used, sold, consumed, destroyed, etc by the western female. Stealing, lying, cheating, on top of all the above! For what??? A vagina??? Really??? I’d much rather burn 60gal/hr in my boat hearing twin bigblocks screaming away than deal with their bullshit! To get constantly criticized, demeaned, basically run into the ground? You brainstorms ever wonder why there are SO MANY testosterone commercials???? Because it is the men? Or the promotion of all the FAT chicks with a bitch? Yeah, that will generate desire or a high testosterone level! And I speak the truth!!!! The Piece-O-Crap I married had mine LESS THAN ONE THIRD OF WHERE IT WAS "SUPPOSED" TO BE FOR MY AGE!!! Then I read, read, read, and read some more! Then when I was told that I was "fat and undesirable, who’d want you", this smoking hot, intelligent, young (25), sexy as hell chick hit on me, that was the game changer! (the old lady didn’t think this was "acceptable"! LOL Then from going from almost ZERO testosterone to waking up with a "John Holmes Special" everyday, I read some more! Then the "media" down plays how destructive the "age discrepancy phenomena" is! Well every guy finds some FAT, out of shape, sagging entitled old broad, with obvious health issues, desirable! Now that is the REAL deal! peace-out!
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November 3, 2022, 9:15 pmOh, and I forgot. All the "soyboys" being raised by the females, not allowed to do ANYTHING, live playing video games having their asses kissed and removed from "DAD" who of course is a "bad influence". Ever watch these jackasses get a flat tire? They will leave it there. So again, blame the female for your lack of male companionship! All the "single moms" drug addicts, incarcerated males( PFAs, child support, generally the whole legal system)welfare, etc. Then these great females usually end up existing at you guessed it. . . . . the parent’s house to raise their offspring, sponge off of what someone else built(Briffault’s law again)ie the welfare system/child support. So when "mean dad" forced little Johnny out to change his own damn tire. And if you gave anyone (mom or dad ) shit, you got an "accountability lesson"! But "mom" knows better. look at all the TV shows and how "mom" was always "great" and dad was a piece of shit dope! Maybe this is where all the "alternative lifestyles" come in. Also throw in all the screwed up food as well. The extreme amount of chemicals, and high estrogen foods. All this is well documented! So take away all the promotion of attractive (to a male)females and the demeaning societal behavior towards the male population and there is your answer. A female has a hard time with ANYTHING, there is a ton of support out there! A guy has an issue, "Be A Man"! Basically "go fuck yourself"!!! This is where I have seen all the handouts towards the females and the guys have to play hell getting support! Seen it with my own kids! A female cries rape, they destroy the guy/men. He claims something in appropriate, he is a pussy! So all these screwed up females can die alone for all I care and I believe most men are at that stage at this point. these females make horrible companions, that’s why men LOVE their dogs and can’t wait to get rid of their wives!
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